Esther Starobinets, MHC-LP
Esther understands that our experiences, relationships, and personal histories can profoundly shape how we see ourselves and the world around us. At the heart of her practice is the belief that every person has a story that deserves to be heard, understood, and explored without judgment. She is particularly interested in working with survivors of narcissistic abuse and coercive or controlling relationships, including individuals who have left cults or other high-control environments. Much of her work focuses on helping clients reconnect with their own voice, rebuild self-esteem, and develop a stronger sense of identity and trust in themselves.
Esther approaches therapy with warmth, curiosity, humor, and respect for each client's individual pace. She has years of experience working with singles who are navigating dating and seeking to build healthy, meaningful relationships. She helps clients explore relationship patterns, understand what they want and need from a partner, develop confidence in dating, establish healthy boundaries, and build the self-awareness and communication skills that support lasting relationships.
Rather than imposing a single framework, Esther works collaboratively with clients to understand how past experiences and relationships may continue to influence present-day thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and patterns. She has a particular interest in complex trauma (CPTSD), self-esteem and identity concerns, difficult family and relationship dynamics, and the often complicated process of rebuilding one's sense of self after experiencing manipulation, emotional abuse, or prolonged control.
Her approach is primarily psychodynamic and narrative, creating space for clients to explore their experiences, understand recurring patterns, and reconsider stories about themselves that may have been shaped by others. She also incorporates elements of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and practical skill building when helpful, particularly when clients are struggling with anxiety, negative thought patterns, relationship difficulties, or feeling stuck.
Esther believes therapy can be a place not only to understand what has happened to us, but also to decide what comes next. Her goal is to help clients develop greater self-understanding, recognize their own strengths, and increasingly trust their thoughts, feelings, and choices. Whether someone is healing from a difficult relationship, trying to create a healthier one, or simply working toward a stronger sense of self, Esther strives to help clients move toward lives and relationships that feel authentic, meaningful, and genuinely their own.
Esther holds a BA from Yale University, an MA from Yeshiva University and a Masters in Mental Health Counseling from Baruch College, City University of New York. Esther lives in Manhattan with her husband and three children.